Doug Robinson: Same-sex marriage: A topic too toxic to discuss

Published: Tuesday, Jan. 14 2014 11:25 a.m. MST

I remembered this story because of what is happening now. There is little dialogue these days; it’s confrontation. For years, nobody was listening to the gay/lesbian community; now they are heard loud and clear, and it has swung the other way. Only one side is allowed to open up about their feelings on this subject. Maybe after all the years of the abuse, the victims are too fed up to listen.

There are many in the country who would speak in support of traditional marriage, but they have been cowed into silence. We’ve seen the hysteria that follows anyone who doesn’t toe the line.

The message from gay marriage proponents is: If you don’t support everything they want or do, or the choices they make, then you hate them and you are bigoted, homophobic, intolerant, hurtful, etc. Syndicated columnist Michelle Malkin wrote, “(GLAAD’s) mission … is about making open debate radioactive, demonizing people of faith and making even the slightest perceived slight a hate crime.”

In Oregon and Colorado, bakers refused to bake wedding cakes for gay couples because it was against their religious beliefs. One was driven out of business and the other ordered to make the cake by a judge. In New Mexico, a photographer did not want to photograph a gay wedding because of her Christian beliefs. The couple could have found another photographer and they did — but they also filed a discrimination suit against the photographer and won.

So the message is clear: Enter the fray at your own peril; get on board or get out. If you hold deep-seated, intractable beliefs that marriage is between one man and one woman; if you believe the institution has enjoyed favored status not granted for any other union from the beginning of man and continued under the Constitution because it propagated the species and was judged to be fundamental to the health of any culture; if you believe that every child deserves both a father and a mother because there are gender differences and that a man and a woman complete each other and bring unique and necessary traits to the home; if you believe that gay marriage will change the definition of marriage forever, ushering in any other union (sister-brother, father-daughter, just friends) that wants protected status for whatever reason; if you believe all that … well, it’s not enough even to warrant a healthy dialogue in today’s climate.

Doug Robinson's columns run on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Email: drob@deseretnews.com

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