I’ve never understood why curvier woman can post pictures of their beautiful bodies and be celebrated, but when skinnier women do, they are suddenly “showing off” or, as one angry woman stated on Kang’s Facebook page, contributing to “the body shaming problem that is going on in North America and other parts of the world.”
Since when is being fit “body-shaming?”
"Demonstrating possibilities in one’s personal health should not be defined as promoting bullying, fat shaming or gloating,” Kang said on TIME online.
“Being called a bad mother and a bad person definitely hurts,” she said in an interview with Yahoo Shine.
Kang even commented on Eriksen's post-baby bod by posting a picture of herself on Facebook one week after giving birth and pasting it side-by-side with Eriksen's.
"That's incredible," she said of Eriksen's slim silhouette, "but for those who are like me, it takes 9 months to build my belly and it took me nearly the same amount of time to get it back to where I wanted it...don't be hard on yourself. Life changes when you have a child making prioritizing your fitness more difficult."
I believe there is a difference between having a healthy body — and healthy body image — and having an unhealthy body or body image. I know some girls who are “bigger” but incredibly healthy, who work out around two hours at the gym every single day. I also know girls who are skinny, but eat incredibly unhealthy food, and never get their heart rate up. Being skinny doesn’t mean you are a prettier, healthier or a more fit human being, just as it doesn’t mean you are bratty, self-obsessive, or vain, either.
I think we should celebrate all women for who they are, and I firmly believe that when you are serving others (moms go to the top of the list here) and working on your spiritual well-being, that you radiate light. That light shines in your face and from your personality and transforms you. It makes you beautiful. Physically. It really, truly does.
But I also truly believe that when you take care of yourself and take time to exercise and eat right so you can be at your best emotionally, mentally and spiritually, then you are doing yourself — your whole self — a lot of good. It’s OK to take care of your body. Crucial even. The problem lies in making your body a point of obsession or source of depression.
Are you up for a challenge? Next time you see a selfie of someone you maybe have envious feelings toward, or compare yourself to, or have a hard time liking, say something nice.
Who knows? Maybe, despite the “fake” or “perfect” looking façade, they need your kindness.
If you want, you can start with mine. (Yes, I’m in my jammie-jams.)
Carmen Rasmusen Herbert is a former "American Idol" contestant who writes about entertainment and family for the Deseret News.
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