There are some days when mothering is about as fun as traveling at 80 miles an hour on a blistering hot day on a motorcycle with no windshield in a bug storm.
I (Linda) have worried for many years about young mothers in the midst of the “storm” who tell me that they hate Mother’s Day. It reminds them of their shortcomings and magnifies their guilt. All mothers have probably felt this way at times. So this year, as we approach Mother’s Day with its flowers and treats and showering of praise, we also need to acknowledge that mothering is just plain hard.
Let’s step back a moment, take ourselves out of the here-and-now and look at the big picture. Mothering isn’t just about where we are in our mothering career at the moment; it’s about where we came from and where we are going. In order to know who we really are, we need to look at the whole spectrum of the mothers in our lives.
Last year, I had a spectacular “aha moment” as I began thinking about the mothers in my life. Not just my own mother, who has been an enormous influence for good on me, but also my grandmothers and great-grandmothers. I am part of them and they are part of me.
My moment came as I was walking through a glorious field of bluebells on a spring day in England in an old 100-acre wood near a quaint little village called Little Baddow. It happened to be my birthday and I was there with two of our daughters, both stellar mothers themselves, and two grandchildren. Little Baddow is where my great-great grandmother Elizabeth Gower was born and raised.
Elizabeth must surely have walked through this very bluebell field in her childhood. It was an ethereal experience to contemplate the currents of her life, which first moved our family to America all those years ago, and now of my own life as we three mothers came back to the flower grove of this stalwart mother from our past.
Elizabeth and her husband, Daniel Clark, were the first to join our church with their family of 10 children and were so bitterly persecuted for becoming Mormons that they decided to emigrate to America. On the way across the Plains in covered wagons, Daniel drank some bad water from the river, contracted cholera, died and is buried somewhere along the Platte River in Nebraska. Valiant Elizabeth forged on to Salt Lake City with the children. I can only imagine the vivid details of her difficult life — details of hardship that, in the end, defined her and helped define me. Though I never knew her, her valiant blood runs in my veins.
There are other stories of my gaggle of faithful grandmothers that boggle my mind. One, after giving birth to 10 children and living a faithful life, died in the horrendous flu epidemic in 1920 in Star Valley, Wyo., when she was 38, leaving eight children — including my mother — and taking her two sick babies aged 3 and 18 months with her to heaven in the same week. Another pioneer grandmother helped settle Bear Lake Valley and built the community recreation hall and cleared a road to Bloomington Lake. The stories of the difficulties of her life are nothing short of awe-inspiring.
Now that our children have flown the nest, Mother’s Day is not so much about me but about celebrating those mothers who have gone before me and those who are now following me — our four daughters and the four women who have married four of our sons.
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