Princeton mom sparks debate about finding a husband early

Published: Wednesday, April 3 2013 9:20 a.m. MDT

But even with the backlash that Patton has received since the publication of her letter last Friday, she has made it known that she stands by her words.

"It's not that I'm anti-feminist," Patton told New York magazine. "I completely understand that not all women want to be married, not all women want a family, not all women are heterosexual. I get all of that!" But "women go to college for a lot of reasons. Women go to Princeton for the very rich academic experience that Princeton provides and has provided for 250 years. I'm just saying, if as a young [Princeton] woman, you are thinking that you would like to have not just professional success but personal success as part of your life happiness, keep an open mind to the men that you're surrounded with now."

Patton is not the only woman who has made a stand for considering earlier marriage. Star Jones told Today.com, that as a 50-year old without children, she has noticed that something is missing.

"I had a plan of action, I had a strategy and it all came to fruition. I did everything I was supposed to do and everything I wanted to do professionally," she told Today.com. "And there came a time when I looked up, I realized that all of the stuff I wanted personally, I sort of let go to the back burner."

Monique Ruffin is producing a video series titled, 'Moms Changing the World' and discussed the benefits of working mothers in her article on Huffington Post.

"Moms today are at a new crossroad, and Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In (blog) has initiated a fresh conversation about women and work. It seems to me, however, that what's still missing from the conversation is an appreciation for the unique perspective and life skills that moms bring to the workforce.

Lisa Miller, with New York magazine, also highlighted a feminist mother who notes the benefits of staying at home with her children. Miller explains that for Kelly Makino, being a stay-at-home mom was the best decision she could have made.

"Her sacrifice of a salary tightened the Makinos’ upper-middle-class budget, but the subversion of her personal drive pays them back in ways Kelly believes are priceless," Miller wrote. "She is now able to be there for her kids no matter what, cooking healthy meals, taking them hiking and to museums, helping patiently with homework, and devoting herself to teaching the life lessons — on littering, on manners, on good habits — that she believes every child should know."

Sarah Sanders Petersen is an intern for Deseret News where she writes for Mormon Times and other feature articles. She is a communications major and editing minor from Brigham Young University.

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