The Faithful, 20 percent of American parents, adhere to "divine and timeless morality" from traditional Christianity, Judaism or Islam to give them a strong sense of right and wrong. They try to preserve moral order, raising "children whose lives reflect God's purpose." They talk often with their kids about faith, have family devotions, attend church and pray before meals.
A news release explained them this way: "A number of the Faithful attitudes line up with stereotypes of conservative Christians. For example, they use spanking, strongly disapprove of gay marriage or sex outside marriage, and the Faithful women embrace the role of homemaker. But several attitudes depart from stereotypes. The Faithful want their families to be warm and emotionally supportive and think men should put family before their career, just as women should."
For this 21 percent, morality centers on personal freedom and responsibility. They see few moral absolutes except the Golden Rule, they value honesty, are skeptical about religion and trust what "feels right," also allowing others moral latitude. They are the least religious, the study said.
They are pretty optimistic about today's culture and their children's future, hoping to help them become what the researchers call "responsible choosers." Their children get more freedom. By 14, they know about birth control, by 15, they surf the Web without supervision and by 16 they watch R-rated movies.
They are politically liberal, support gay marriage, value tolerance and "believe the playing field of life should be relatively fair and even."
This group (19 percent) let kids be kids. They are skeptical of the "old certainties" of the Faithful, but are just as skeptical about the views of the Engaged Progressives. They are primarily white with blue-collar jobs, no college degree and lower income. They are less happy in their marriages, not particularly close to their children and think they are "in a losing battle with all the other influences out there." They spend less than two hours a day interacting with their kids and when they have dinner as a family, it is often in front of the TV. They don't usually monitor their kids' homework and their kids tend to have lower grades than those of the other parenting cultures.
The Detached, say the researchers, are pessimistic about the economic future and their children's opportunities and "seem resigned." They say they believe in God, but don't attend church and religion is not an important part of their children's lives.
The American Dreamers make up 27 percent. They are optimistic about their kids' opportunities and abilities and even with relatively low household income and education, they "pour themselves" into raising their children and giving them material and social advantages. They try to protect their kids from negative social influences and strive for strong moral character. This is the most common family culture among blacks and Hispanics.
They are more likely to be women, they believe in God and claim religion as important but "embrace a live-and-let-live morality when it comes to other people." They voice opinions. Two-thirds of them are married but they feature more single parents and count more on extended-family support.
They are "very close" to their children and hope to be best friends some day. "Compared to other parents, they are just as likely to offer their children praise and encouragement, but they are more willing to discipline them — by scolding, giving time-outs, threatening spanking and spanking," the researchers noted.
"The study also revealed that between all the categories, most of the parents said their children share the same values as they do, despite outside influences — and dissension in the household is usually about everyday things like setting curfews or doing the dishes," noted Daryl Nelson of Consumer Affairs. "Researchers also found that there are less authoritarian types of parents than in previous generations and many try to properly balance the art of being a disciplinarian and friend to their child, which certainly wasn’t the case in the past with many parents."
And while parents may fall into categories, experts note that children are still very individualized, siblings are often quite unlike each other. The Carmans already see that in their kids.
"We do have great hope for our children and their futures," says Lorna Carman, who has concluded from the brief descriptions that she and her husband, who teaches special education in a high school, are probably just a little more American Dreamer than Faithful. Barely.
"But we are not so naive as we once were as parents, before the recession, about how hard it might be for them to achieve success in their future families and careers. And so we work harder to empower them psychologically and spiritually, not through extracurricular activities and extra lessons... but through communicating with them, educating them about the world, spending time with them and building a trusting relationship with them.
"We don't hope to be their best friends someday necessarily, but we would like them to know we are their biggest supporters, their advocates, we will alway love them and they can talk to us."
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