For a while, Rosie's Twitter account was private, and her mom still pays attention to who she follows and who follows her. They have ongoing discussions. Bullock has found online is a fun world for mom and daughter to do things together and learn about each other. She likes to see what her daughter "pins" on Pinterest. When she was using Instagram with vacation photos, Bullock said she helped Rosie set up her own account.
Both Bullock and Kelsey describe their daughters as responsible online and sensitive to things like vulgarity. They've had discussions about what might come back to haunt them when they apply to colleges or for jobs.
That's an issue Bullock thinks about for herself now more than she did in the past. When she worked in a different field, she said, "I was more liberal (posting) about how I spent my weekends, not that I'm a big partier, but the things I posted before ." When she was single, she wrote about dating. Who she dated back then is not necessarily what she wants people to know about her now, she added, a smile in her voice. She asks herself — and prompts her daughter: "Is this something you are comfortable with anyone in the whole world finding out about you?"
"Forget privacy settings. If a friend's privacy settings let the information about you out, would you care?" she asked. "It could be around forever."
Kelsey is sensitive to those ripple effects, too. Her daughter recently "liked" a photograph on Facebook. While there was nothing objectionable about the photo, the name of the group that put it up was not a name Kelsey hoped to see associated with Samantha. It was rude and crude. Those are things not everyone realizes or thinks about, she said. An online reputation can be harpooned by something as seemingly innocent as liking the wrong page or visiting the wrong site.
Still, she said she worries more about what her son Cameron, 11, is watching on YouTube. That's harder to monitor than most social media activity.
One of the report's newest findings, Madden said, is how many parents have searched for their child's name online to see what kind of information it calls up: 42 percent. That concern for reputation grows as children get closer to college age and the job market, she said. "When you look at age 17, in the midst of college applications, there's a big increase in that activity."
There's reason for parents to be concerned. "Studies show college admissions officers are taking postings into account when they are evaluating students," Madden said. "Even a year ago, it was up for debate whether that was the kind of material that would even be considered. Increasingly, it seems to be the case. So parents are trying to help their kids understand that once they approach the college years, they certainly need to clean up and be more careful with the way they present themselves online" if they haven't been before.
Another surprise in the report was "the extent to which parents are engaging with their kids on social media sites. Among those who use social media, half commented or responded directly to something posted on a child's account," Madden said. Whether they were being supportive or concerned was not asked.
Sometimes that occurred to the chagrin of the youths, according to a focus-group section in the report that showed the responses to that by the children.
The report found that parents and teens are encountering each other online in social network sites and that two-thirds of parents who have a child 12-17 use the sites, up from 58 percent in 2011. There's no difference between fathers and mothers, but there's great variation based on age: 82 percent of parents 40 and younger, compared to 61 percent of those who are older than 40.
The entire Pew report is at http://pewinternet.org/Reports/2012/Teens-and-Privacy.aspx.
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