In Our Lovely Deseret: Becoming co-creators with God by giving of ourselves

Published: Wednesday, Oct. 24 2012 5:00 a.m. MDT

Inner balance, knowledge of self helps us give to others. We "co-create" with Heavenly Father when we give out of pain, out of faith, one step at a time, with faith in our literal place as our Father's children.


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There is so much to remember. So much to organize. So much to do. There is so much that we want to become. We ask ourselves: Where do I start — and how do I keep going?

Start with small circles and work outward. Start from within. The scriptures tell us that the kingdom of God is within us (Luke 17:21). We are told that "as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).

So, we begin with ourselves: our needs and desires, our strengths and weaknesses. If a man does not know himself, there is not much he can truly do to help others. If we have chaos and conflict within ourselves, how can we give peace and order to anyone else? We all know the words of counsel Shakespeare gave in “Hamlet”: "To thine own self be true, and it will follow as the night the day, thou can’st not then be false to any man." But how can we follow it when we are not certain of what we are — if we are not certain of our ability to be true?

Inner balance is essential. No one wrote more beautifully and more pointedly of this mortal dilemma than did Anne Morrow Lindbergh in “Gift From the Sea.”

"I want first of all … to be at peace with myself," she states. "I want a singleness of eye, a purity of intention, a central core to my life. … I want, in fact, to live in grace."

We need to find time for creative activity — things that will cleanse, heal and feed our spirits, which become bruised by our encounters with everyday life. Madeline L’Engle wrote in “Walking On Water,” "Creativity opens us up to revelation … our capacity to see angels, to walk on water …." And taking us even further, "God is constantly creating in us, through us, with us — and to co-create with God is our human calling."

We approach this awesome co-creation process by giving of ourselves — truly giving — to others. This begins in the small circle of family and expands. We “lose ourselves” in love — and it is easy to love a newborn baby, or an ardent young wife or husband. Yet, even here we have room to grow and stretch. In “Lamb In His Bosom,” Caroline Miller wrote, "She wished that she had a dozen feet, and many hands, and tribble her natural strength, for only so could she go and do and bear for her loved ones as she wished to do."

To give out of pain, out of disappointment — to give when we feel we have nothing left to even succor our own needs. Ah, here we learn about ourselves and what we really have within. We begin to undertake to walk hand in hand with God and to understand the rich words of the late Elder Neal A. Maxwell when he said, "To help others in the midst of our own pain is like the generosity of Jesus on the cross. Empathy during agony is a portion of divinity."

We can do it. We are constituted so as to do it. As C.S. Lewis reminded us: "You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body."

As we learn to understand and trust ourselves, as our powers expand, our usefulness is increased — and, therefore, our joy. This is one of the greatest secrets or truths of mortal life.

Leo Tolstoy said, "Joy can be real only if people look upon life as a service, and have a definite object outside themselves and their personal happiness."

One step at a time, from the inside outward, and the circles of our influence begin to expand. The joy, the inner harmony, the sense of purpose and pleasure — these are the blessings the journey brings.

Remember, as C.S. Lewis said, "nothing is yet in its true form." And that includes us. Have faith in the journey. Have faith in the process of creating and nurturing souls. As G.K. Chesterton wrote, "The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting. It has been found difficult, and left untried."

Let us never forget this shining truth:

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