Churches facing challenge as congregations age, younger generations move away
"I as a pastor in a sense have to wear multiple hats in that way," he said.
Some of the young people who drift away from the church return when they get married and start a family of their own.
"I think they're discovering they want to give their children the same values they had when they were growing up," Patterson said.
That's a pattern Quinn sees as well. Cottage Chapel is largely made up of young families.
"When we get older, we realize we're willing to fight and put up with things we couldn't before," Quinn said. "We want to be stable and have that community for our family."
But having a congregation full of young families can lead to other challenges, because families have so many activities competing for their attention, including school, work, sports and other extracurricular events.
"When you mix all those things together, the one area that people tend to sacrifice most is their commitment to church," Quinn said. "A lot of times, churches are the ones that take the hit."
A way he tries to combat that problem is by maintaining a connection with members outside of services by offering fellowship opportunities such as going out to eat, spending time in the park or going on a camping trip. Being in a different environment really opens people up to talk about things they might feel tense conversing about at church, he said.
"People want to feel like they belong and if they feel like they belong, then you can talk about what you believe," Quinn said.
Brandon Cannon, pastor of Real Life Church, also wants to make sure church isn't the first thing people take off of their busy schedule. One way he's making sure people don't get lost in the shuffle is ensuring he's not alienating people who have never been to church before.
"There's an alarming number of people that don't have a church background," he said. "Gone are the days of people who grew up in church."
People who have no church experience often won't understand anything that happens during a service from the songs to the offering to the scripture.
"We think those are the people Jesus wants us to reach, so we purposely plan for that," Cannon said.
During services, he tries to act as if everyone is at church for the first time and doesn't take for granted that people know what's going on. He takes time to explain small details that might be confusing and posts many resources on the church's website and social media pages that give people a picture of the church's basic beliefs.
Because Cannon started Real Life Church less than two years ago, the church had no traditional structure that needed to be tweaked for a new generation. He could incorporate explanations and social media into the church's structure from the beginning. The church also doesn't have the limitation of being tied to a denomination, though it is part of the Association of Related Churches, a network of pastors that provides support and guidance to recently planted churches.
"I think it's a blessing we don't have to conform to a denomination's standards, but we can share things and discuss what we're trying to do," Cannon said. "There's still that brotherhood to throw ideas around."
However, for those churches that already have an established structure, it can be hard to bring new people into the fold.
Sometimes churches become fortresses to the point where they aren't making an effort to welcome new people or bring their message into the community, according to the Rev. Dr. Rob Ballard, who is pastor of Faith United Methodist Church.
But that mentality has to change, especially in a culture that is "increasingly un-Christian," he said.
"We have to get out," Ballard said, continuing the fortress metaphor. "We can't just hide behind our doors."
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