You’d rather be dressed in white: A Mormon convert's letter to her daughter about Miley Cyrus
But what society fails to teach you is that beauty comes from a confident walk and a loud, happy laugh. Beauty comes when you show every boy who is interested in you that you love and respect your body — even more than you love him in that heated moment outside marriage. Beauty comes when you show others that you know yourself, you love yourself, and it doesn't matter who feels the same.
This is me, days before getting married to your dad, in my temple dress as I was trying it on.
It's before I had the experience of going through the temple. But you can see the expectation on my face, the way that I'm glowing in excitement for the coming week. This kind of joy wouldn't come if I had decided that I'm not good enough somewhere down the line. If I decided I needed attention from boys more than I needed to be kind, more than I needed my church. More than I needed to save myself for marriage. This kind of joy wouldn't come if I'd lost my way all because I wanted to be accepted into the world's arms. And that joy won't come to you either unless you choose a higher path. A path I'm sad to say the majority doesn't even WANT to take. And it's sad. Because they're all daughters of God, no more and no less than you.
Daughter ... turn your face to where you want to end up, and don't deviate. The world will tell you, just like it told Miley, that it's cooler to be "different," but the world's version of "different" means "rebellious," revealing," "attention-getting" and "vain." Sure, you should be your own person. Have your own style. Listen to your own music. Go for your own dreams. But don't sacrifice that special, divine nature within you while you do it.
I promise it'll lead you to a happy, full life. After all, it led me to your dad. And eventually, you.
This world is your stage, and people don't learn and grow and change from Mileys. They change from people who are kind. People who are smart. People who make others laugh. People who make others feel beautiful. They change from the one who is supremely different than all the others just because she chooses to not be the world's kind of "different."
I pray for Miley. I pray for girls and women all over the world who are indoctrinated with lessons of who they should be — objectified, simply because they've told themselves that's all they are. Objects.
You are not an object, my sweet daughter. You are someone's daughter, someone's future mother, someone's future wife, someone's caring neighbor, someone's teacher — someone's guardian angel.
And when you step out on the world's stage, viewed by millions throughout the course of your life, you are meant to be someone they remember simply because you are worth remembering.
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