Giving family financial help has hindered her retirement

By By Ronald D. White

Los Angeles Times (MCT)

Published: Monday, July 29 2013 12:00 a.m. MDT

For years, Cheryl McDonald has been her family's financial rock, always willing to give financial support. In terms of retirement, however, being the rock has weighed her down.


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For years, Cheryl McDonald has been her family’s financial rock, always willing to give financial support. In terms of retirement, however, being the rock has weighed her down.

“I have been the primary income producer and the primary holder of assets,” said McDonald, a widow. “My attitude has always been, ‘It’s a family pool of money.’”

But that generosity has left McDonald, 65, with too few assets and too much debt for someone so close to retirement, said Alfred McIntosh, founder of McIntosh Capital Advisors, who reviewed McDonald’s finances. The downtown Los Angeles resident can’t turn to her home for relief because her condominium is “underwater,” meaning it wouldn’t sell for enough money to pay off her mortgage.

McDonald’s challenge is an increasingly common one for an aging generation on the verge of retirement: learning how to say no.

“What we are experiencing as a nation is a time where children are not exceeding the success of their parents. We haven’t seen that in decades,” said McIntosh, a fee-only financial planner in West Los Angeles.

“That is creating unique challenges for parents in their expectations, and in their retirement planning.”

McDonald’s adult daughters are independent. But her 91-year-old mother is in declining health and her younger sister is disabled following a back injury. McDonald said she has lent her mother and sister financial support and will probably need to do that again.

McDonald also manages to give her church about $6,000 a year in donations and an additional $1,100 in contributions go to National Public Radio and other organizations.

McDonald said she understands McIntosh’s warning, likening what she has to do to the preflight airline lecture about fastening the oxygen mask on her face first before worrying about anyone around her.

“Going forward, my attitude is that it is OK for Cheryl/Mom to take care of Cheryl/Mom,” she said. “We’re going to put together a plan that will take care of me. From that point, we’ll reevaluate the family pool in the event of need.”

The fact that McDonald’s “financial future must be very different from her past” is particularly crucial now, McIntosh said.

McDonald had been earning $105,000 a year from her job as a senior program manager at the Worker Education and Resource Center, a nonprofit job training organization in Los Angeles. But McDonald’s work hours recently were cut in half.

One important move would be for McDonald to build an emergency fund of six months of expenses, McIntosh said.

None of her assets, including two annuities worth more than $200,000, are accessible in the short term. McIntosh said that is primarily why McDonald has turned to credit cards to handle emergencies. She’s paying off about $35,000 in credit card debt.

McDonald has $150,000 in a 401(k) in the Janus Balanced Fund, a choice praised by McIntosh that posted a gain of more than 14.9% last year. The fund’s five-year average annual return of 7.6% beat the S&P 500’s 7% average return over the same period.

A more immediate need for McDonald involves paying off the high-interest personal debt, which McIntosh wants her to do in two years, about half of the time she had planned.

Moreover, McDonald has been putting $750 to $1,000 a month on her credit card. That should stop.

“We can’t stress this enough. She has to avoid additional debt,” McIntosh said.

There are other challenges as well.

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