SKorean seeks wife, 2 daughters he left in NKorea

By Sam Kim

Associated Press

Published: Tuesday, March 20 2012 12:00 a.m. MDT

In this photo taken on Dec. 9, 2011, Oh Kil-nam, a South Korean, who defected with his family to the communist North after being lured by promises of an important job and free medical treatment for his ill wife, and then later fled the country leaving his family behind, shouts slogans during a rally denouncing North Korea's alleged genocide and crimes against humanity in Seoul, South Korea.

Lee Jin-man, Associated Press

SEOUL, South Korea — In 1985 an idealistic South Korean, Oh Kil-nam, defected with his family to the communist North, lured by promises of an important job and free medical treatment for his ill wife. His voice still cracks as he remembers the winter morning one year later when full of disillusionment he fled, leaving his family behind.

In the years that followed, the faintest traces of Oh's wife and two daughters have sustained his dream of being reunited with them. Tape recordings said to be their voices. A handful of photos that led Oh and human rights activists to believe the women are held in a North Korean prison camp.

Requests since the early 1990s to North Korean authorities for information on the whereabouts of Oh's wife, Shin Sook-ja and his daughters, have yielded only silence. North Korea has never commented on the case. It says any South Koreans in the North are not there against their will. Oh concedes the possibility that all three could be dead.

Attacked on Internet forums and by some South Korean activists as a "cruel man" for taking his family to the North and then abandoning them, Oh said he struggles every day with the painful results of his decisions.

"My wife told me never to be afraid to leave on my own," Oh, 70, said as he recalled her crying as she encouraged him to flee. "Now that decision has haunted my mental sanity for decades."

His case was raised again last week at a U.N. meeting in Switzerland where the organization's special rapporteur on North Korean human rights, Marzuki Darusman, urged Pyongyang to shed light on the fate of Oh's family and allow their reunion. The meeting dissolved into farce as South Korean lawmakers scuffled with the North Korean delegation and chanted slogans against China's policy of sending North Korean defectors back to their homeland.

"I only hope spring will come to both my family and the North Korean defectors," Oh said. He hopes dictator Kim Jong Il's death last December, and the installation of his young son Kim Jong Un as leader, will result in North Korea relenting on its hardline policy.

Oh's tragedy is a legacy of the Korean peninsula's division in 1945 by the World War II allies that separated millions of Korean families — and the 1950-53 war between South Korea and North Korea, which ended in an uneasy truce rather a peace treaty. About 80,000 South Koreans are now waiting for a chance to be reunited with relatives in the North, no matter how briefly, according to the Red Cross in Seoul.

After the war, more than 500 South Koreans were abducted by North Korean agents and have not returned, according to Seoul's Unification Ministry. About 90 percent of them were fishermen. And more than 21,000 North Koreans have defected to the South, Seoul says.

In March last year, a South Korean publisher sent a letter to Pyongyang through Seoul officials, demanding that his father be repatriated 43 years after a commercial airplane he was traveling on was hijacked by North Korea. Thirty-nine other South Koreans returned, but Pyongyang said the remaining 11 chose to stay.

Oh's campaign to save his family got a boost in early 2011 when a photo exhibition in Seoul on North Korea's human rights conditions drew South Korea's First Lady Kim Yoon-ok and hundreds of other guests. Photos of Oh's wife and daughters were part of the exhibition that portrayed lives in North Korea's prison camps as harsh and inhumane.

Since then, conservative South Korean media have dubbed Oh's wife the "daughter of Tongyeong," a city on South Korea's southern coast where she was born and raised. The story of the missing family has also captured the imagination of many South Koreas who still have little to no knowledge about the fate of their loved ones in the North.

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