In the Whirled: The Perfect Family Why we stick to the ideal

Published: Tuesday, Nov. 15 2011 5:00 a.m. MST

We hold to a family ideal for the same reason we worship and try to emulate a perfected Being. It gives us a benchmark that is absolute. And striving for it will bring us more happiness than measuring our ideals by any worldly standard.

President Spencer W. Kimball, in addressing the Relief Society sisters back in 1978, said, “We have no choice, dear sisters, but to continue to hold up the ideal of the Latter-day Saint family. The fact that some do not now have the privilege of living in such a family is not reason enough to stop talking about it. We do discuss family life with sensitivity, however, realizing that many sisters do not presently have the privilege of belonging or contributing to such a family. But we cannot set aside this standard, because so many other things depend upon it.”

He was right of course. Everything depends upon it.

Tiffany Gee Lewis lives in St. Paul, Minn., and is the mother of four boys. She blogs at Her email is

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