LDS World: Comfort your spouse and family members

Published: Sunday, Feb. 28 2010 12:47 a.m. MST


whatever reason, Josh came home from work in a "bad mood." His wife,

Cindy, explained to me on the phone recently that for some reason, after

he had groused around the house for an hour or so, she consciously

realized that she had a decision to make. She could chide him for

snapping at her and the children or she could keep her mouth closed and

simply go about the business of managing her family and all that needed

to be done that evening. As she mulled over what to do, she remembered

times she was cranky but was hard-pressed to recall Josh criticizing

her for any outbursts of temper. She chose to be upbeat and to pay no

heed to his behavior.

She was

tired after a long, hectic day and she supposed Josh was tired, too.

Josh went to bed at 9:30 p.m., early for him. She climbed into bed at

about 10 p.m. The next morning there was the usual hustle and bustle as

Cindy and Josh helped get lunches ready for school, oversee piano

practice, get homework into backpacks and hurry the children out the

door to catch the bus. Shortly afterward, Josh hurried off to work.


Cindy received a text message from her husband. "Sorry I was in such a

bad mood last night. Thanks for putting up with me. Can I take you out

to lunch today?" Cindy told me how much the message meant to her. More

importantly she was profoundly grateful that she had maintained her

composure the night before.


Prophet Joseph Smith frequently, in word and deed, taught the

importance of lending support rather than criticism to one another. On

one occasion, when speaking to the Nauvoo Relief Society, he counseled

wives to treat their "husbands with mildness and affection. When a man

is borne down with trouble, when he is perplexed with care and

difficulty, if he can meet a smile instead of an argument or a

murmur — if he can meet with mildness, it will calm down his soul and

soothe his feelings; when the mind is going to despair, it needs a

solace of affection and kindness."


another occasion he addressed the men, "It is the duty of a husband to

love, cherish, and nourish his wife, and cleave unto her and none else;

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