The FlyLady on MormonTimes.com: Anger and perfectionism

When you finally have reached the absolute bottom and you think there

is no place to go, there are always two places left: You can give up

entirely and be planted six feet under, or you can scream out for help

and start pulling yourself up!You have a choice. The difference is

you have to get mad and scream and not give up.

Anger is not a bad emotion. As women we have been taught to just take

it and not explode with anger. Exploding with anger is rage and rage is

not OK, but giving yourself permission to be upset and angry is

a good thing, as is telling the person that you are angry at.When you

keep anger in it is like poison. So what do we do to ourselves? We turn

anger into sad and we feel sorry for ourselves for being mistreated.

Then WHAT? The anger goes to sad and then to depression. We eat to make

the hurt go away or we sleep to not have to deal with what is!

It is all our perfectionism again sandwiched with that procrastination

that paralyzes us into depression. I can see you all shaking your heads

at me. \"How can perfectionism be the foundation to my feeling bad.\"

Well here is how it all fits together!

When something goes wrong in our lives and we can't fix it, what do we

do? We can't fix it to make it right again or we can't change the other

person, so we want everything back the way it was! Do you see the

perfectionism rearing its ugly head? We do everything in our power to

CONTROL THE ISSUES and make it all better, only to be shot down time

and time again! So if we can't do it right what do we do? We were