Tactfully bring up co-worker's plastic surgery
Dear Abby: A co-worker, "Marilyn," recently returned from time off with a noticeably different face. She said nothing about it, so we didn't either for a while. Finally, one woman remarked to her that she appeared to have had "some work done." Abby, Marilyn denied it!
What's considered proper here? Should we have said something initially about her radically changed appearance? We were afraid if we ignored it she'd be disappointed. Having spent that much money and gone through that much pain, wouldn't she have been crushed if we hadn't?
— Inquiring Minds In Pasadena
Dear Inquiring: When someone has spent big bucks on plastic surgery, the one question that person does NOT want to hear is, "Have you had some work done?" If someone has a good surgeon, the results are subtle, not radical.
A more tactful way to have approached your co-worker would have been to say, "Marilyn, you look wonderful — so RESTED. That trip took years off you ..." Then, if Marilyn wanted to share her secret, she could have — or just said thank you.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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