This is, by no means, not a picket against structured lessons. I tried teaching my son piano, thinking this to be the perfect match (I play the piano, he wanted to play the piano ... ). I was pitifully wrong. But perhaps talking to your children about what they like and how they want to do it may be enlightening. What may be missed in overscheduled structured lessons is the chance for parent and child to learn life's lessons in the most subtle ways.

We can relax and enjoy the summer through simple things, and shockingly, our children will enjoy it, too. A few weeks back was our school's spring vacation. Rather than plan an elaborate trip (translation: endless prep and cleanup upon return with much sleep deprivation for Mom), we stayed home and did amazing things such as bowling. And the park. And games.

I can honestly say it was one of the most unexpectedly enjoyable vacations we've had.

As with all things, balance is the rose and the thorn. In the end, whichever way is best, parents can feel relieved knowing that everyday they are teaching and growing their children no matter the summer schedule.

After that morning years ago — running all over the grassy park — I heard the music in my children's laughter and realized they were still living, loving and learning.

LIFEChange tip: Discuss and set a schedule with children that fit your family needs without guilt or comparison.

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