Making those empty-nester years more meaningful

For those who are empty-nesters or those who are feeling the beginning symptoms, my wife and I understand your pain, suffering, loneliness and other feelings. Both of our daughters have now moved out.

For most of us, having children ultimately leave the nest is a challenge — one that we definitely do not look forward to but know it is forthcoming. Although powerful, these feelings can be overcome or at least put in some perspective.

We don't proclaim to be completely cured of the "empty-nest syndrome," but we do need to prepare for it.

Remember that empty-nesting is part of life.

No matter what anyone tells you, the empty-nest syndrome is just a part of life. Children are born, grow up and leave home. While it may not be that cut and dried, this is the sequence. Once you understand empty nesting is real, begin doing things to prepare or help you overcome these potential feelings.

Establish traditions with your children.

Perhaps, this is one of the most important aspects of parenting. Children need good traditions on which to fall back. What we have discovered is the traditions we started with our family have now become their traditions. While we want them to begin their own traditions, there is nothing wrong with them hanging on to certain traditions that are wholesome and family honored. Tradition sharing connects you forever.

Do things together with your children.

No matter what they say, children do enjoy doing things with you. They want to spend time with us. Ironically, the times they remember most are usually the small things.

Teach your children gospel principles.

In our church, teaching your children about Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ is paramount to an eternal family. Thus, time reading the scriptures and studying the gospel together became a staple in their daily diet along with attendance at Sunday meetings and their Young Women program. Consequently, both daughters married returned missionaries, who are both Eagle Scouts, in the temple of the Lord, and they are raising their families the same way they were raised.

Think of empty-nesting as a new start.