Mormon Parenting: Teach children to respect candidates for office and their differing views

Published: Friday, Dec. 2 2011 5:00 a.m. MST

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One of the best things we can teach our children is to be genuine and open-minded — the opposite of cynical and partisan. And we should teach them to trust and look for the positive in people rather than to assume that others always have selfish personal motives. We should even teach our kids to try to respect and appreciate viewpoints that are different from their own.

Even when it comes to politics.

And we should teach all those things by our own good examples.

Unfortunately, we don't get too much help from the way the media covers politics.

Here are some of the things that bug us about political media coverage:

1. With 24-hour news channels that know that people usually only tune in for a few minutes at a time, the tendency is to try to make everything into a sound bite and to focus on the spin and politics and public opinion polls rather than on ideas and substance. Print media follow the same "look for the dramatic" pattern, and radio is all about the extremes on both sides.

2. The other thing that lends itself to brief, ratings-hungry coverage is a scandal of some kind, so everything else gets dropped when the possibility of a juicy one comes along.

3. The media assumption is always that everything has political motives. "He's saying that because he has slipped in the polls." Or "This will help with the base."

The possibility that some politician might actually believe in something, actually want to serve, actually care about the public good, never seems to occur to most political reporters.

4. Most media cover the presidential campaign like it was some kind of a sporting event, with the only interest being in who is winning and by how far and what their strategies are. The Republican presidential debates have the same kind of introductions, walk-outs, national anthem and post-game commentaries as an all-star game.

Perhaps the cynicism, oversimplification and "everything has a political motive" assumption of media are some of the things that are making this country more divided, more partisan and less trusting of public office holders than we have ever been before.

The fact is that most people who run for public office, local or national, do so largely because they really want to serve, because they believe in some things and because they want to give something back.

I planned and managed a number of campaigns earlier in my life, and while there certainly were some egos involved, almost everyone I worked with genuinely wanted to serve the public and ran for office at considerable personal sacrifice.

Believe me, Mitt Romney could be having a lot more fun spending a lot more time with his grandkids and finding a lot more joy in the retirement that his accomplishments have earned him if he were not running for president.

In his case, I know personally that his motives revolve more around altruism, belief and the desire to serve than they do around some hunger for more power or more wealth or more recognition. I knew the same thing about his dad, for whom I worked once upon a time.

And to be even more personal, let me just say that when I ran for governor, I did so because I really believed I had something to offer and because of some things I felt strongly about that I hoped to implement. I loved it when people (and media) paid attention to my ideas, even if it was to disagree strongly with them. But I hated it when people (and media) assumed that everything I said was just political or designed to manipulate public opinion or win votes.

Let's teach our kids to see the world, even the political world, with a measure of trust, positive assumptions and altruism. Let's teach them to appreciate candidates for office and to respect other people's opinions and to try to see both sides of an argument. And let's teach them the optimism of seeing the glass as half full.

Because you know what? How they see the world will have a pretty great effect on how they see themselves.

Richard and Linda are the founders of Joyschools.com and New York Times No. 1 best-selling authors who lecture throughout the world on family-related topics. Visit the Eyres anytime at www.TheEyres.com or at www.valuesparenting.com or read Linda's blog at www.deseretnews.com/blog/81/ A-World-of-Good.html. Their three latest books are "The Entitlement Trap," "5 Spiritual Solutions" and "The Three Deceivers."

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