Linda & Richard Eyre: When parents know 'why,' they figure out 'how'
And so many Christian parents that we speak to have an orientation to and a concentration on Christ that put us to shame. We love it when we meet parents who base their whole lives and all their decisions large and small on the question, "What would Jesus do?"
Despite all of our varying strengths and weaknesses, and our differences culturally, politically, economically and religiously, it is quite a wonderful thing to realize that we have so much in common with other committed parents around the world that our similarities outweigh our differences.
The key word in the title of this weekly column may be the first word: "Why." Much of our book writing through the years could be classified as "How the Family" — how to raise responsible kids and strengthen marriage relationships. We are somewhat known for our marriage methods, for our parenting techniques.
But we welcome the opportunity, in this column, to focus more on the WHY because what our travels and our observation have taught us is that people who truly prioritize their families — who have been converted to the fact that family is the core of their lives and the root of their happiness — these people figure out most of the hows for themselves.
Of course we all know that family is important. On public opinion polls, more than 90 percent of us say family (and family relationships) is the most important thing. But do we really know that deep down? Do we feel it in our bones to where it influences everything we do? Or are we just paying lip service? Is there too much of a disconnect between what we say and what we do? Is there some inconsistency between what we say matters most and where we spend our time and our mental energy?
This column will explore these questions both on the macro and the micro. We will look at why government and public policy should do more for families, but we will also look at why (and a little how always creeps in) parents can do more for their own families. Sometimes, when it strays toward politics or opinion, the column may appear on the op-ed pages. Other times, when it has a particularly spiritual or religious focus, it may show up in Mormon Times. And there will be a blog, too, that you can click to from the column — a place where we can put even more personal things about our own family.
But most of the time what we write will be right here, on Mondays, on the front of the Family section of the Deseret News, both in print and online.
We hope to have you along, to travel with us so to speak, as we explore the always interesting and always relevant question of "why the family."
New York Times No. 1 bestselling authors Richard and Linda Eyre are the parents of nine children and, by coincidence, the authors of nine internationally distributed parenting and life-balance books. They lecture throughout the world on family related topics. Visit them at www.TheEyres.com or www.valuesparenting.com.
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