Grandma chooses 'Demon Spawn' over her son

Dear Annie: I am the only boy in my family. I have one older and two younger sisters. One of my sisters has a daughter (my niece), whom I will call "Demon Spawn" to protect the innocent.

Demon Spawn has always lived up to her name. When she was very young, she would torment my two sons until they became so fed up that they would defend themselves, which always got them into trouble, much to her delight. She would verbally torment and abuse my wife at family gatherings after I left the room. I once stayed near the doorway and heard it all. I exploded in anger, but she was forgiven, as always, because she had a "rough life growing up." That's a lot of baloney.

She once had my mother co-sign for furniture that mom ended up paying for, not to mention the time she stole money and a credit card from my mother's purse.

Eventually, Demon Spawn had two kids, but she never married. She went on welfare, gave up her kids, got into meth and ended up in prison. Just before she was released, I told my mother that I refuse to be in the same house with her, especially with my two young grandchildren present.

Well, Demon Spawn managed to convince my mother to let her back into the family, claiming she's changed. I don't believe it for one minute. My wife and I and my son and grandkids didn't attend our family Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner because she was present. It appears that my mother, knowing how I feel, has picked Demon Spawn over her only son. This girl is pure evil, and I want no part of her. How do I get my mother to see the light? — Hurt

Dear Hurt: When you issue ultimatums, you must be willing to accept the consequences. Mom undoubtedly believes you will be OK without her because you have a family support structure of your own. Your niece, however, has no one to help her. She may be a total mess, but your mother still cares about her. We hope Ms. Spawn actually has changed, but if not, please don't make your mother more miserable than she's going to be.

Dear Annie: When you spend your vacation staying with friends at their home, what is the proper etiquette regarding taking them out for dinner, buying groceries, paying admission to area attractions, etc.?

When friends or family stay with us, we try to have food on hand that they like, and we often treat them to restaurant meals and tickets and admission fees. After all, they spent a good amount of money traveling to see us.

We love our guests, enjoy their visits and want them to have a good time, but it can get expensive. What are the guidelines? — Happy Host With a Sad Pocketbook