From Deseret News archives:
Secret shame: Lifelong impact Victims, families, society cope with effects of abuse
Is she a victim or isn't she? Julie is 26 now. It's been more than 20 years since the first sexual assault happened, but she still struggles with that question.
Is she a victim or not?
Lately the young woman has been talking to friends about her childhood history especially since everything blew up with her family and she's been having to relive the details again.
Her friends tell her she needs to get some professional help. "But I don't want to get help," Julie exclaims. "I don't want to be broken."
Julie is not her real name. She has a baby boy now, is married and is really trying to move away from the memory of childhood sex abuse that has continued to rear its head through her young life.
She was a toddler, she says, maybe 3 or 4, when her teenage stepbrother first started his abuse. She remembers it lasted until she was about 5. By then the damage was already done.
"My whole life, for as long as I can remember," said Julie. "I looked at myself as the neighborhood whore."
Of the 20,340 cases Child Protective Services investigated in Utah last year, 26 percent involved allegations of sexual abuse, second only to domestic violence.
Betournay called the figure shocking. "That speaks to how serious of an issue it is, not just in Utah but nationwide," he said.
Rape is the one violent crime in Utah that has been higher than the national average over the past several years. Yet only one in 10 rapes gets reported to authorities, according to the Rape in Utah survey.
The impact of sexual assault on Utah victims poses a huge concern for officials here.
"It impacts a significant segment of people in our state, and I fear it's a growing problem," said Ron Gordon, head of the Office of Crime Victim Reparations.
It's not just the numbers that are devastating, Gordon said. "It's the impact on the victim and their family and the way people respond to this crime. We are creating a situation where people don't feel comfortable telling others about what's happened to them."
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