When he died in my arms, I was crying, yet I had this overwhelming wave of relief. I cry every time I think of him and am consumed with guilt. Please help me. — Suffering in Florida

Dear Suffering: The relief you feel is normal. Your husband's death ended both his suffering and your anguish over his your impending loss. It has nothing to do with the depth of your love and devotion. Please consider some grief counseling. The nursing home should be able to recommend someone.

Dear Annie: This is for "Had Enough," whose friend, "Bob," is grossly overweight and wrecks the chairs.

Chances are, he knows he damages the furniture, so I think it's time "Had Enough" invested in folding camp chairs. My husband and I are big people, and one year we found someone selling camp chairs that hold up to 500 pounds. She can bring them out when her friend visits.

She is not being rude to request that he sit in those chairs. And it may be a relief for him, too, not to end up on the floor after breaking another chair. Plus, everyone can relax and enjoy themselves. — Resting Easy

Dear Resting: What a great suggestion. Thanks for passing it along.

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