We have to find ways to show ourselves love the way we understand it and will recognize it. But since we are doing it for ourselves we just don't accept it in the same way we would if it came from someone else. This is why we have a new pampering habit for December. These are little things that we can do each day to pamper ourselves. They can be anything that you can think of to do. You can snuggle with a cup of warmth or curl up with a favorite book or magazine. Settle into a tub of bubbles or put on your favorite music. Pick up a flower at the grocery store so that every time you look at it you will smile. Light candles in your home or put crystals in the window so that rainbows dance across your room. These always make me smile.

I was taught many years ago by Rita Davenport to fake it till you make it. I didn't really know what that meant till recently; I just did like she said. It is nothing but practicing until a habit becomes automatic. Imagine that, practicing loving ourselves with little habits that tell us we are loved by the person who does those little things that make us feel the love we so deserve. The martyr goes away, and you are surrounded by the loving feeling that you have been searching for.

So practice loving yourself first by simple actions. Eventually you will not do things that you don't love. You will not have items in your home that do not make you smile. This act of love is as contagious as your shining sink. You are just shining your heart.

Are you ready to Finally Love Yourself one little habit at a time?

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For more help getting rid of your CHAOS; check out: www.flylady.net. Also see Cilley's book, "Sink Reflections" and her new book, "Body Clutter." Copyright 2006 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.