I separately found both my birth mother and birth father, and they were thrilled that I wanted a relationship. I know some birthparents do not wish to be found, but "Happy's' husband isn't one of them. Her statement that this daughter "has added nothing to make my life better" is so incredibly selfish. Does this wife have any idea what being given up for adoption did to the daughter?

It doesn't sound like the husband objects in any way to his daughter's visits or calls. His wife should stop being so jealous and be glad her husband is a loving father who opened his arms to his child. And whether she likes it or not, the daughter IS family. —Angry Adoptee in Pennsylvania

Dear Angry: We received dozens of letters from outraged adoptees making similar statements. We absolutely agree that the relationship between Dad and his adult biological daughter is entirely up to them, and the sooner Dad's wife can accept it, the better for everyone.