You cannot love anyone else until you love yourself

My bathtub is my place of meditation in the mornings. I surround myself with warm water and open my mind and heart to listen. My husband calls them God Breezes. When they come in the middle of the night, we refer to them as the Midnight Editor. When I get them in the tub, they are bathtub epiphanies. This morning the subject was love!

Robert and I have spent the last hour and a half talking about love! Not our love, but the love that is in us all. As sidetracked people all we have ever wanted is to be loved. I can remember a time when all I wanted was to just feel loved. It didn't matter if I was really loved just as long as I felt like I was loved. I guess that is just affection. Anyway, love is not something we can make happen.

I don't care how much you try to make someone love you, it is never going to happen. You cannot earn love. Respect maybe, but not love. It is either there or it isn't. This is why you have to get the house in order for you. You are never going to get your home clean enough to make someone love you more or at all. Even as the house gets cleaner this person is never going to love you if they don't love you with a dirty house. Do you understand this? The house is not the problem. If the love is there all things are possible. Even a small spark is enough. You cannot buy love with gifts either. If you are not loved for you, then no gift is ever going to satisfy the need you have to be loved.

Do you remember the first time you walked into your kitchen after you shined your sink? (If you have not shined that sink yet then go do it now.) You feasted your eyes upon a reflection that made you smile. You didn't know why it made you smile but the feeling emanated from the very core of your being. That feeling was love! I know you don't believe me. When that sink greeted you, you smiled, you felt something that changed you. I know it seems simple, even a bit corny but that sink is a reflection of you.

When you take care of the sink; just look what that care does for the way you feel each and every day! This is the beginning of you accepting the love that has been hidden inside of you forever. For years we have pushed that love down deep and had forgotten about it because we were too busy trying to work hard enough to earn that love from others. It is time we uncovered that eternal love and cultivated it so that love can be shared with the world.