When my brother Dave was 5, our grandmother placed a cardboard match box in the middle of the road. Mom and Dave sat on the front porch and waited for a car to smash it, which didn't take long.

"That could be you," Mom told him. "That's why you have to be so careful when you cross the street. Cars can hit you and hurt you very badly."

It was a particularly important lesson for my mom to convey because she was totally blind. She knew that she faced special challenges in watching him and keeping him safe, so she focused on prevention.

Parents often teach by showing. We've all known a parent who took a child to visit an acquaintance who'd been burned to drive home the dangers of playing with fire or to a corrections setting to show a wayward-leaning child where bad behavior may end up.

I plan to immerse my children in politics in the near future. We'll take road trips to the Utah Legislature, watch tapes of presidential-candidate press conferences, talk about the campaign ads and rhetoric. I want my children to see the end result of certain behavior I don't find particularly appealing.

Each family comes fully loaded with its own value system. My father hammered home messages about courtesy and the ill effects of rudeness. He had a zero-tolerance policy that we all grew up in and adopted ourselves. He could forgive nearly any lapse, but he never made an excuse for rude or obnoxious behavior. And self-importance, expressed as either arrogance or condescension, fell even further down his list. He didn't like dirty tricks or manipulation, either.

I don't think this political climate would have been his favorite thing. It's too venomous.

When I think of the Legislature, I sometimes think of my dad. There are kind and courteous legislators, but that body, taken as a whole, would have driven him to distraction. He'd have loathed the current election, from the national to the local, for its toxic tone.

It's not just elections that are disturbing, but what comes after. I think more citizens should attend government sessions just to see how badly elected officials can behave when they're in a power seat.

Over time, I've formed some impressions. For instance, I don't think our legislators want to hear from the electorate. Most of them consider themselves "the experts" and will likely be unmoved by any challenge we might throw up regarding an issue if, as is the case a great deal of the time, their individuals minds are already made up.

They can be extremely abrupt, to the point of rudeness and beyond.