Wife guilty about daydreams

Dear Abby: When I was in high school 10 years ago, I had a huge crush on "Jimmy." We were friends — nothing more. After graduation, Jimmy and I went our separate ways.

I eventually met someone else and I am now happily married with two young children. However, I have never completely forgotten Jimmy. I look for him from time to time on the Internet — and daydream about him often.

My high school reunion was last summer. For the first time in a decade, I finally saw Jimmy again and met his wife. To my disappointment, we did not pick up where we left off and had very little to say to each other. But seeing him gave me butterflies in my stomach. My daydreams about him are now stronger than ever.

Why can't I get him out of my mind? I know nothing is ever going to happen, but I feel like I'm being unfaithful to my husband. Please help. — Distracted Wife in the Lone Star State

Dear Distracted Wife: You need to find out why you have chosen to obsess about a romance that never was and never will be. Until you do, you'll never be completely satisfied. Please don't think you're alone in having this problem. Fishermen and hunters often can't forget "the one that got away." Individual counseling will help you get the answers you're looking for.

Dear Abby: My husband died one year ago. I wore a gray outfit to his funeral instead of the traditional one. I have the feeling that some of the people there thought it was strange.

In recent years, I have noticed that some brides have worn a pale pink or an off-white gown, and I have seen bridesmaids wearing black taffeta with red. If this trend is acceptable, was my wearing a gray outfit at my husband's funeral OK? This has bothered me for a year. Please advise. — Worried in Pennsylvania

Dear Worried: Subdued colors are proper attire for a funeral; therefore, gray is perfectly acceptable.

If any of the attendees were more preoccupied with what you wore in your time of grief than in paying their respects, they have too much time on their hands. Please do not make their "problems" your own. Let it go.

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, "Jake," and I have been fighting a lot lately. He says I am controlling and possessive.