Before we know it the holiday season will be upon us. In a few weeks it will be Halloween, then Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's. We love to decorate, but most of the time we wear ourselves out doing it. Did you know that you don't have to decorate your home in one single day? It seems that none of us have that kind of time anyway, so why don't we enjoy the process and do a little every day?

One friend put up a naked tree for Thanksgiving Day with just the lights on it, and as each guest arrived, they were given their choice of ornaments to place on its branches. Then each night after that she made a big deal out of putting on a few more decorations; they would light a candle and carefully pick out the ornament to put on the tree. Then they would turn on the lights and admire it as it blossomed before their eyes.

Now isn't that much more fun than trying to do it all at once and letting your perfectionism take over and ruin it for everyone? Our mother made Christmas torture for us because of her perfectionism. Every icicle had to be hung just so, and this crazy tree she wanted us to help construct had no room for us in the house. We felt like it was this big monster in the living room that was about to devour us. It is probably because when we were making the tree it was her perfectionism that was the hateful part. I know you are trying to figure out what kind of tree this was; it is really hard to explain, but I will try.

Imagine a plain tree without any leaves; not an evergreen tree either: Just branches and no leaves. Then she would cut one-inch stripe of cotton quilt batting for us to wrap around each and every single branch; there could be no bark showing at all. This tree took over our living room. You had to turn sideways to go to the bedrooms. Then she would buy only one color of glass ball ornaments. We had to put them on the tree spaced perfectly. Then there were the icicles. This just sends me into spasms to think of this. Each one had to hang evenly over the branch and they had to be spaced one inch apart all over this tree. Do you hear the perfectionism? This was just the inside of the house, and I am not even going to talk about all the lights on the outside of the house.

So don't allow your perfectionism to ruin the holidays for everyone in the family including you! It is not fun to feel guilty for yelling at your babies. Let go of your perfectionism and find yourself FLYing (Finally Loving Yourself) to a different tune this holiday season.