"At Colleges, Women are Leaving Men in the Dust," blared the front-page New York Times story by Tamar Lewin.

It seems that on campus, men are more prone to partying, women to . . . acing their classes. And these trends, which hold across race and economic lines but are most pronounced within minority and lower-income groups, are now significantly affecting college life across the country.

Yes, there are a lot of guys doing well, even exceptionally well, in college. But the trend is otherwise. Women now make up 58 percent of those in our colleges and universities; in some places, their ratio is 2 to 1. They are a majority in graduate schools. And they win most of the places on honors lists. (Yes, men are more likely to graduate from college than they were two decades ago, but socially speaking that's not the achievement it was two decades ago.)

Today, "they (college men) have a sense of lassitude, a lack of focus," William Pollack, director of the Center for Men and Young Men at Harvard Medical School, told the Times. Wrote Lewin: "In dozens of interviews on three campuses . . . male and female students alike agreed that the slackers in their midst were mostly male, and that the fireballs were mostly female."

FYI: The amount of time men spent zoned out playing video games was consistently bemoaned.

"So what?" some elite have said in response to the news story. If men were ahead of women educationally, as was the case for so long, would anyone care? Maybe, some argue, women are just doing what they always do when they get a shot at something — they multitask, take it seriously and succeed.

Flash-forward in life, and here's what may be at least part of the answer to the "so what" question — the "multitasking" observation does make a lot of sense to me. It seems that women can survive and even prosper in almost any kind of a social structure, and good for them.

The problem is that men can't.

Women, for the most part, are inherently, well, pretty darn civilized. In general, it doesn't "matter" if we have a man in our lives in the sense that we are still going to work hard, we're not going to be violent or sexually aggressive, we are going to take care of our children.

Yes, some of those things have changed, particularly the "sexually aggressive" part, because of expectations that women should behave more like men. But that's part of my point.

Men, on the other hand, don't seem to live so successfully without a woman to care for and protect, or without the knowledge that one day they will be called to care for one. Their strength, competitiveness, aggressiveness — sexually and otherwise — tend to go one of two directions: into the protection of a wife and children, or into more dangerous, or maybe only fruitless, activities. (Like, um, video games.)