What you really want is peace! In order to find this peace; you are going to have to make peace with all the different faces you have.

The scared little child needs to know that it is going to be fine. You don't have to be perfect to be loved. The rebellious little child needs to know that she is being heard and that housework, exercise and food is not punishment. The happy-go-lucky little child needs to know that she can go out and play.

Our lives have many different faces. None of us can go back in time and change our parents, but we can re-parent ourselves with the love that we extend to our children and our grandchildren. Let's use a kinder voice and help this part of us grow up and quit fighting the adult in us. When we can embrace with love the parts of us that are scared, looking for love, respect and kindness, we can let go of our need to always be in control or look like we are in control and finally merge our adult and hurt little child into a happy person who is FLYing! "Finally Loving Yourself" is the key to making peace with all those faces.

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Marla Cilley, a k a FlyLady, is the author of "Sink Reflections" (Bantam Books Trade Paperback). For more help, please go to: www.FlyLady.net. © 2006