From Deseret News archives:
Are you trying to juggle one too many pins?
But somewhere along the way we felt like we were losing control and we worked hard at taking control of every area of our lives, only to feel even more out of control.
That scared little kid inside of us is trying so hard to not mess up. We want to show the world that we are good at what we do. We don't want anyone to not like us, this is why we say "Yes!" to anyone who asks us to do something. We don't want to disappoint anyone, and most of all, we don't want anyone to know our dirty little secret: We are not really in control. We are faking it!
Is this beginning to sound like a juggling act to you? We can keep a few pins in the air for a minute or two and then someone throws us one more thing to juggle. Eventually, one after another, pins start to hit the floor.
That little child in you wants to do it all by herself. She doesn't want to ask for help! The lack of control she is feeling has her pushing everyone away that could and would help her. Why can't we do it by ourselves?
I don't think it is that we can't, it is just that it does not come naturally to us. We need to be taught. Since that little child in us does not want to let anyone know she is faking it and doesn't really know how to do handle everything, she silently beats herself up for not knowing it all! Does that sound like anyone you know?
When you look at the FlyLady cartoon character, you can identify with the different faces that she has. One minute you need a cheerleader, the next minute you may need a fairy godmother. Then there are times that you need a loving mother figure to lift you up or gently remind you of something you have not done. She is always dressed to shoes with a bright smile on her loving face. You see her wings and know that she can FLY.
You, too, have many different faces, and they are all merged into the real you. The real you wants to be loved and to love! You want to be appreciated and respected! You don't like being angry and feeling bad. You want to feel happy and enjoy life, not just go through the motions, keeping all the pins juggling in the air.
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