From Deseret News archives:
Give mothers support for their vital role
Where were today's child specialists to confuse my mother, and to save me, by telling her that she should talk things through with me? Maybe then I could have "used my words" and learned that I could talk my way out of trouble and do it again like some kids do today.
I suspect that for many past generations, communication between mother and child was pretty simple "don't do that," "stop it," "great job" and with lots of hugs, smiles, comforting when hurt, nurturing, and knowing that mother was always looking after you. Communication was clear, with less talk and immediate consequences.
It made the world secure and was reassuring to know that mother was always there to set limits if you started getting out of control. It was that secret signal between mother and child that stays with you and teaches you right from wrong for the rest of your life. Mothers were always lurking, making sure you were doing the right thing, or at least you thought they were.
Mothers don't always teach by talking, but teach more by their actions. From birth, infants quickly learn about the world from the first person who feeds them, comforts them and in essence, holds their life in their hands. Will it be a secure world, a loving world or a frightening and angry one where the only thing that matters is survival, without concern for others? Now, we call it bonding.
One of the great losses today is the diminishing value we have placed on being a mom, yet mothers set the mold for their child's personality and the kind of communities and institutions we create to maintain a civil society.
Today, we often make mothers feel guilty and indecisive. Young, would-be mothers used to learn child-rearing from their own experiences and from their mothers and aunts. Now, they are bombarded with how to raise children from a flood of child experts who are quick to market the most trendy child development theory du jour.
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