From Deseret News archives:
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"Really, what cruising is all about, yeah, the sex is there, but it's more to make a connection," John said. "Especially here in Utah. You can't go to priesthood meeting and talk about your personal problems, where you can meet somebody at the park and just talk about the frustration you're feeling. It's not necessarily the sex, it's being able to talk to someone else who knows where you're at."
Perhaps to a certain degree, men cruise public bathrooms for the same reasons teenagers used to spend their summer nights driving up and down State Street.
"I think what starts out with a social aspect of 'how do I get connected' becomes sexualized very quickly," Buie said.
Besides being illegal, having unprotected sex leaves cruisers susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases, a cause of great concern for Ferguson's Utah AIDS Foundation. The new focus on addressing the reasons for cruising has helped address that health concern, Ferguson said.
"We were going and saying you need to wear a condom," Ferguson said. "They didn't care about that. . . . Until we had conversations with guys that were cruising, we didn't understand that."
Sexually transmitted diseases aside, cruising can be risky in other ways.
"You play a cat-and-mouse game, and it's a dangerous game," John said, recalling the time he met a man who appeared to be making sexual advances toward him at a local gym. John approached the man and was assaulted.
"He put a half or full nelson on me. I passed out," John recalled. "He was standing over by the door ranting and raving homophobic rants and saying, 'If you ever do anything like that again, I'll break your (expletive) neck.' "
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Recent comments
There is no room for sexin public whoever you may be.Find real love
Anonymous | Nov. 25, 2008 at 1:27 a.m.
i like it. i only wish it was around a few years back when i was caught.
mattthew | March 27, 2008 at 5:02 p.m.
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